Nobody gives a crap about marriage.

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  10. 72JamesH February 16, 2013 at 8:23 pm
  11. I was lucky. We met at a church meeting, and I remember standing next to her towards the end, and something said to me, ‘You see this [droolworthily gorgeous] face? You will come to know it better than your own.’ We decided pretty soon that we wanted to be married, and did so the next year… BUT my natural Omega behaviour reared its head and almost scuppered things, at the 7-year mark during a bout of unemployment.
  13. Fortunately, before I even discovered Athol Kay, I decided I wasn’t going to be phased by her snits anymore, and I was going to act like the leader of the pack, and not her ‘partner’. It was helped by a lovely old Catholic lady telling me straight up I should be the leader of the household. The results were striking, and then I discovered how it worked when I found MMSL.
  15. So, I guess the answer to the question ‘What worked for you?’ is, take a ripe, stinking dump on feminism and on fashionalbe attitudes to marriage;
  16. unbend, to be the leader, the king in effect, you were meant to be;
  17. the king, while being the final word and authority, is not his own – he belongs to his people, and with them at all times.
  19. 73Robber February 16, 2013 at 10:16 pm
  20. I can perhaps provide an unusual perspective on a happy marriage. I met my wife when I was 19 and she was nearly 18. We both lived on campus at a university in Melbourne. We were pretty much inseparable and spent most of our free time together, though she did like to go rock climbing or skydiving and I liked to spend that time reading or catching up with friends.
  22. I think we had a few things that made it work. (1) Chemistry. She wasn’t hotter or anything but I was drawn to her like no one else. She felt the same about me. (2) shared values. We’re both from religious families and both had moved away from the religion of our parents (her’s Baptist, mine Catholic) but the shared ideas about family, marriage, etc. worked really well. (3) we enjoyed each other’s company and gained a lot from the other. I’m a classic ISTJ nerd, she was an ENFP free spirit.
  24. Sadly she is no longer with us – she died during the birth of our son (he’s 4 now). I went through hell dealing with her loss and simultaneously having to deal with a new baby, being a new father, and getting my career off the ground floor. I was so fortunate to have the support of our families and friends. Dealing with all that has made me a much stronger man than I thought possible. Moving to the US has been easy by comparison.
  26. I obviously can’t say too much about the ravages of time as we didn’t have that much time married and she was still quite young when she died. But I am confident we’d still have been a happy and contented old couple.
  28. 74OffTheCuff February 16, 2013 at 10:50 pm
  29. 73 comments! A record low.
  31. 75J February 17, 2013 at 1:45 am
  32. @Ian

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